Milla has had not one ounce of separation anxiety in her short 19 months. Other mothers tell me that I should be incredibly grateful, and I did witness my sister go through turmoil when her first born had a shocking case of it – her child was permanently attached to her leg for a good 3 months!

My own mother suffered when I had it as a child, crying as soon as she would even leave the room. Every toilet trip was apparently shared, with me holding on to her knees. Actually, I’ve experienced this many times with Milla but only due to intense curiosity and not the desperate need to be with me.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want it to that severity but I’m just not sure why, as her primary carer who invests an incredible amount of energy and creativity and love with her, that she does not favour me over others one bit.

If she falls and hurts herself, she is quite happy for any old person to give her a cuddle and soothe her. If I walk out the door and leave her with grandparents or friends, she gives a quick wave and continues absorbing herself in whatever has taken her interest.

A friend psychologist said she was the most well rounded individual and this was all a good thing.
She went on to inform me that it’s not Milla’s problem but mine. She reminded me that I am an emotional being, a cancerian, the water element, and I am affectionate and loving. She said it was normal to feel this way and that everyone likes to feel wanted and loved particularly when it’s your own flesh and blood.
She also reminded me to be careful of what I wish for – a newborn and a clingy toddler were not a good match!

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