Girls.
Before I get to what I wanted to talk about today I feel like I need to apologise for being rather sporadic with my posting. I just reached thirty weeks and tiredness has set in but all is going well and I feel like I am on the home stretch which is nice and I will try to be a little more consistent in my writing.
Anyways… Squirm will be two at the start of next year and is becoming very much a girl. Now I always knew she was a girl, obviously, but her interests and characteristics are becoming a lot more defined now and it has me just a little scared. When I was growing up, and even now to some degree, my sister and I had a definite aversion to those we labelled girlie girls. We loved adventures, getting dirty, being good at sports and being hardcore (don’t know whether we had that word back when I was a kid but you know what I mean.) We ridiculed girls who screamed, who couldn’t catch a ball, who had to wear the best brands and wouldn’t get dirty. We were ruthless in our mocking, just between ourselves of course, and now I am scared.
Squirm got new shoes and needs to point them out to everybody, she loves hair clips and carrying around a bag, she loves her teddy and babies, she likes to put on a dancing dress and dance around the loungerooom, she can’t stand to have dirt or food on her hands or feet. All of these things she has done without any prompting, unless Nanna is secretly training her behind my back to get revenge for all those years when I wouldn’t wear those ‘cute’ outfits, which is a possibility. And so I worry about how I can possibly relate to this little princess, but then I see her following around her brother, playing with cars, lying on her belly lifting up rocks to find earwigs, pretending to be a dinosaur, playing catch and then I can breathe again, it is going to be alright. Girls can have dolls and dance and be dinosaur bug catches too, I hope so anyway.
October 22nd, 2009 at 7:14 am
I suppose no matter what their interests as long as our girls are caring, loving, and spiritually sensitive people we can carry our heads high. It’s interesting how their individual personalities reign above all training. We just to need to help the navigate what is okay “girliness” and what is selfish and consumeristic. I love it that your daughter loves dolls and bugs. I love it that my daughter loves “bubbas” and cuddles all she can get her hands on, and that she’ll climb into wet sand in her jammies and play for hours!
October 22nd, 2009 at 8:12 am
I too was brought up climbing trees and making mud pies in the sandpit and am a little concerned that at 13 months I have a little girl who has an intense fascination with handbags, shoes and bling (to the point where she will put her arms out to be cuddled by anyone in the supermarket that has something shiny around their neck)! They sure are funny little creatures.
October 23rd, 2009 at 11:22 am
he he he…so funny chelle, mostly cause i remember you as a kid. and the thought of you having a girly girl is very funny. also funny that i’m in the same situation with my girl. we are walking a fine line between her loving her two dolls ‘the big one’ and ‘the little one’ and her being too attatched to them. but she likes climbing and jumping and blocks and dirt and non girly girl things- she won’t let me do her hair, it’s out as soon as i look away…but she is into ‘ballarina’ and spins to music with her arms in the air until she falls over. but you’re right i think your girl is a great mix of adventure and delicateness. isn’t it fun seeing them become themselves and as mums we wouldn’t want them to be anything else